I've been having a hard time. This past year has been hard. I switched antidepressants in September, and that helped my mental state for a couple months, but now things have only gotten worse. My poor husband has been such a rock to hold onto as he's helped me deal with my constant ups and …

Putting Myself Out There
I used to really want to be a professional writer. I was constantly writing poetry and working on spoken word. I blogged consistently. I was dreaming big because I wanted to have a career I loved. But about four years ago, reality hit. I was still blogging and writing poetry and doing events, but I …

I Grew Up in a Racist Town, and I Never Even Knew It
I grew up in a small town in California, and like most blind, white people, I thought racism was solved. I was aware that occasionally individuals would say mean things about POC, but I assumed that was few and far between. I believed that being cruel wouldn't get you anywhere in life. Looking at our …
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Cast the First Stone
On May 25, 2020, George Floyd was killed by a police officer. He had tried to purchase something with a supposed counterfeit $20. Whether he knew it was counterfeit or not, I don't think his crime warranted the punishment. And I could go on about the details surrounding this murder and what came afterward, but …

I Have Been Silent
I've been trying to write this for six months, but I put it off over and over, thinking that it probably wasn't the time. Six months ago was the time. A year ago was the time. It's always been the time. But I have been silent. Five years ago I was silent about politics. I …

This Isn’t What We Were Promised
I'm pretty sure this isn't what we were promised. I'm pretty sure we grew up watching people succeed. I'm pretty sure we watched our role models have strong friendship groups, paying for expensive apartments with not great jobs, and then eventually getting the dream job because of random connections. We were promised there would still …

My Thoughts On a Crisis
The world is going through sudden pandemonium. And apparently none of us saw it coming. Even though we've been warned. Even though we've been writing books about it and making movies about it and scaring each other with it for years now. Because we never expected it to really happen. Everything is changing, but I …

Living A Carless Existence
Two weeks ago Bobby and I uprooted again and moved to San Diego. It has been a big change already and sometimes I get scared that we won't survive, but I'm trying to be positive, because overall this change is probably for the best. Between the two of us, there is only one car. Bobby …

Everything Is Hard Sometimes
So, I got engaged 2 months ago. And everything has been a whirlwind. Because I'm getting married in February, and that's 3 months away and I don't know what I need help with but I feel like everyone has an opinion. But it's our wedding. It's my and Bobby's wedding. So the only opinion that …

It’s the Patient’s Fault
It's been three years since cancer took my mother's life. She battled with cancer for ten years. She went in and out of remission. She sought God. She prayed for healing. She prayed for wisdom. She prayed for guidance. She got treatment. It worked. But cancer is a bitch. It's pretty good at finding its …