The thing about social media is that I know both way too much and way too little about people’s lives. Usually people that I don’t talk to or don’t care much about, but care enough about to not delete them from social media. And because of Facebook algorithms I don’t see much from the people that I love, although most of my actual friends don’t post, and I’ll randomly see something from someone I forgot about.
Today I noticed that someone had taken their last name off of Facebook. Someone who I hadn’t even seen a post from in a long time, and someone who I haven’t seen or spoken to in more than two years. But I was at her wedding. So I did some Facebook creeping and realized that she had taken all traces of her former relationship off of Facebook. So I assume she’s divorced. Which is sad. Or maybe it’s right. Because I know nothing about the situation. I was just being nosy. And it just makes me think how awkward social media is. Because I’m not going to message her and say, “Hey, did you get divorced? What happened? Are you okay?” Because that would be weird, and I don’t even know how long ago she got divorced. Because social media was a thing, you would run into someone in the grocery store or something and maybe get to talking and find out information that way. But this person lives across the country from me and isn’t close friends with any of my friends. We just happened to work together several years ago. So now I have this information and no outlet for it, and I don’t even need to have this information in the first place.
It was so easy to let people out of your life in the old days. You would lose track of people and only keep up with one the ones who really mattered. Facebook tries to make everyone matter to everyone. It’s just so much. Do we even need it?