I don’t like making blanket statements. So I don’t want to say all white men feel like they can say whatever they want. Or even that older, white men feel like they can say whatever they want. Or even that older, southern, white men feel like they can say whatever they want. Because I’m not sure if it’s across the board true. But whether it is true or it isn’t, it annoys me.
I’m not sure if it’s my personality. Or the fact that I’m from California. Or a combination of both. But I don’t like talking to strangers very much, especially when I have no reason to. So whenever I’m approached, I’m not very good at reacting. I’m not even sure what the appropriate reaction is sometimes. My thoughts immediately go to: “why is this person talking to me?” And I don’t even really care what they’re saying.
The other day I was picking up from a restaurant for a delivery (I starting working a second job doing food deliveries for a new company because my boyfriend works for them and it’s fun). I picked up from the same restaurant three times in a row, and the same man was sitting at the bar all three times. The first time he asked me about delivering, and asked if he could order a grilled chicken salad… from the restaurant he was sitting in… And I know he was messing with me, but I’m a joke killer, because it’s more fun for me to act as if I’m taking something literally. I told him I didn’t take orders and that he’d have to go to the website. Every time I went in to pick up he continued to pester me. I told him it would be pointless for me to deliver to him because he is already in the restaurant, to which he said that I didn’t have a good sense of humor. I told him I had a great sense of humor, but that I was from California and I tried to leave it at that. Then he said he could tell I wasn’t from around here. I really just didn’t think he was funny.
And I’m sure that there are men just like him where I’m from, but maybe I haven’t encountered enough of them. Or maybe they know to quit when the receiver obviously doesn’t like their banter. I wish I could wear a sign around my neck that says, “Don’t talk to me” whenever I’m not in the mood.
This seems to happen more and more though. They seem to assume that because you exist in their vicinity, that you are fair game. I’m not fair game. I don’t understand the point of making jokes about my job or anything else about me just because you don’t know how to start a real conversation. Especially if you’re not even there alone. In this latest instance, his wife (I’m assuming) was sitting right next to him.
Just because a female exists, doesn’t mean you have a right to her. Her thoughts belong to her, her conversation belongs to her, unless she wants to share it. And that goes both ways. It’s the same for men, it just doesn’t seem worth mentioning.
I wish I was more terrifying.
Honestly, what am I supposed to do? Fake a laugh? Hahahahahaha. Shut up.