The Case of the “I Don’t Matter”s

I’m experiencing an increasing case of the “I don’t matter”s.  So much that it’d probably be easier to disappear.  And I don’t need people to try harder or act smarter or to learn to remember.  Because it’s me.

And it makes me think.  Maybe no one really matters.  I mean, people matter to each other, and it’s my fault that I have no one.  I’ve never really learned to have anyone.  But in the largest meaning of the word, no one matters.  We are all just blips.  Time keeps going, and the longer time gets, the smaller chance our existence will impact anything.

I feel really abandoned, but I’m the one who abandons.  I’m the one who packs up and moves away.  I’m the one who doesn’t stay in touch.  I’m the heart breaker with a broken heart.

I went to a friend’s family’s thanksgiving.  I traveled to be there.  On the way home, I realized it probably would have been better for everyone if I hadn’t gone.  My being there changed nothing.  I was just overwhelmed.  Because I don’t like lots of new people.  I don’t like feeling stuck.  I’m not good at socializing.  Why do I think that because there is a holiday, I need to spend it somewhere, when I’d be happier at home?  I don’t matter.

I entered into something I didn’t mean to enter into.  But it wouldn’t matter if I was here or not.  They can argue over everything without me anyway.  And there would probably be fewer arguments if I didn’t show up, because I’m too liberal, apparently.  Anything I have to say just gets interrupted and forgotten.  I don’t matter.

And when people say that nothing is going to change, it always changes.  When they say you won’t get dropped, they’ll have excuses for when you do.  Because it’s impossible to articulate anything real at all.

I feel alone.  But I feel alone because I don’t know how to express what is inside of me.  I don’t know how to make anyone understand this grief that has built up.  I don’t know how to be anyone else.  I don’t matter.

3 thoughts on “The Case of the “I Don’t Matter”s

  1. Jennifer taylor

    Sara, Your mom just passed away, so it is expected that this will be a very difficult holiday season for you. More people care about you than you think. And of coarse, God cares for you more then any person here on earth. I believe that every life matters and that every life can make a difference in this world. I will pray for you every day and ask that He will give you peace, direction and meaning to your life. Many hugs! can you send me your address in a private message?

  2. I’m sorry that you’re having a hard time with life right now. I would just like to leave a comment here to say that you do matter. Sometimes we believe we are mere blips in the universe, as you said. But you have no way of knowing what the consequences of your blip being there has. Maybe, simply by your being there, you have caused two galaxies to not collide. Maybe your vote tipped the weight towards the right person, Maybe because you smiled at that man on the street, he didn’t kick the dog.
    In whatever small way you think you matter, you matter many many times more.
    I hope you feel better soon.

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