Something I’ve been thinking about. Living in community. It’s something that people talk about a lot, they praise it, they say how great it is, but no one really knows what it is, apparently.
When I was in college, my senior year I lived in a quad that showed me the closest thing to living in community that I have experienced. We had “quad time” every other week, and it was amazing. We would play games, watch movies, go to dinner, worship, or just talk about our lives. We got to know each other. We prayed for each other. We listened, and we knew each other. If something was going on, we worked together to fix it. We heard each other out. We worried about each other and we cared about each other. But we also had our space.
I remember when my grandmother died I went to the house of a guy I was dating, and one of my quad-mates kept texting me to make sure I was okay, and to make sure I was coming home. She was there for me.
When I graduated from college, I was planning on moving to Portland. A friend of mine hooked me up with a pastor friend of his who has a communal home and had an opening in August, when I was planning on moving up. We spoke on the phone and he explained that they lived in community. They weren’t okay with people just living in the house, they had to be a part of the house. Food was shared unless specifically stated otherwise. They ate meals together.
This scared me, having strangers be part of my life. And it ended up falling through anyway, I didn’t even move to Portland. But that was living in community.
I am aware of another living situation right now, that people keep saying is living in community. However, some of the people who keep tossing that word around don’t even live in the house. There are people in the house that are forgotten, who are not included, and who have no voice. They need their space, but it is never given. They ask for silence, and it just gets louder. They want to be left alone for a while, but are instead intruded upon. And whenever they do speak up, they are beaten down and overruled.
How is that living in community?
A community is defined as people who live in the same area, with the same interests, working toward a common goal.
So this house’s goal must be to force people out.
Well, they’ve gotten their way.